Fit In

There were a lot of story of how someone tried so hard to fit in in a society that they chose different pathways to achieve their goal. Some of them thrived, and some didn’t. This is not going to be stories about what kind of people failed or what kind of people thrived, it is about two things: when you are choosing your society, it doesn’t solely depend on your goodworks and that there’s always going to be people waiting at your back ready to cheer if you crashlanded on your nose and failed.

I’ll start by telling you a story of 3 different people.

There’s this one lady. She was trying so hard to fit in, like all of us. She tried too hard; attaining wrong the right way – doing right the wrong way. On her defense, who knew how hard it could be to be her? Who knew how to deal with the things she didn’t know how to deal with herself? But on my defense, she could’ve chosen another battle to fight instead of this one. She could’ve chosen a different kind of image projection of herself if it wasn’t for her poorly done choices. Anyway, it was too late. Before she is able to take another pick, or another choice, she falls down the landslide. Not through it, but with it – slowly going worse with the current.

There’s also this one guy. He’s searching for someone, some people, somewhere who’s gonna accept him for what he truly is. People in his society hates him not because of his embodiment, but because he’s trying too hard to be himself. He’s begging to be a part of one, actually – a part of a good society. He knows what he wants, but he didn’t know how to get it. One day, by the grace of God, he then came to one other group in a completely different society. And within them, he finds that safety; that welcoming; that goodness; that assuredness that he is not as alone as he thinks he is. He’s finally a part of something.

The third one is the guy from our society. They guy who had always been there with us through the thick and thin. But who knows that he would’ve been struggling with a deeper kind of depression? He had gone through the “acceptance of society” stage because he’s found us – but he’s struggling emotionally. He wanted to gain good scores but he didn’t know how. He’s stuck in the paradigm that college life would be easier and less stresfull than what life he’s had when the truth says that he will always struggle with life and all those emotional beings inside of him. And one of those only ways for him to let it all off is through positive thinking and let some things pass. But as people around him realized as well, things are easier said than done. It’s always easier to tell people your struggles than overcoming it yourself – and guess what: it’s never really fulfilling to tell all those people all the struggles you’ve had unless you helped yourself and be contained.

We all had our moments trying to fit in. We always question wether this is a good society, the one that we currently hold. We ask wether we will grow better as a person with these people around yourself. We would like to know wether they will mold us or wether they will break us; leaving us alone with our scars. You may have not seen them struggle physically – or at least not as much as those who really did in real life. But we do realize that people won battles we have never heard of. And I know that this is easier said than done, but bear this with me: try to not judge anyone too hard on the first few meetings. They can be a really different (and worse) people if only you take care to listen. You’ll get carried in a whole different level of understanding of why and how they perceive things once you really understood who they really are. Everybody’s trying to fit in.

I beg you to understand a piece of everyone else and everything of you. Don’t judge. –red